The biggest question of all

Do I have a job? How much does that job pay? If it’s not paying enough, will I look for another job? How much will I want that new job to pay? What do I need money for?

A house?

A car?

A family?

How many children do I have? How many children do I want to have?

When will I get a new car? Will it be an sport car this time around?

Is my TV Full HD? Did you know a 4K TV shows a sharper image than a Full HD TV? It’s almost like watching real life on screen.

Do I have a watch? Maybe it’s time to aspire to a Rolex?

Do I want to be rich?

How wealthy do I want to be? Otedola? Dangote? Adenuga? Bill Gates? Jeff Bezos?


No, seriously. Why?

Why am I hustling? To what end?

For anyone who has never enjoyed the lavishness that true wealth executes, the most important thing in life is wealth. Wealth is freedom. Wealth is the ticket to lord oneself over others. Wealth is respect and the permission to talk shit at anyone, even the president of our country.

But the biggest question of all is, what the hell is happiness?

A humble man once told his son: “Son, money cannot buy happiness.”

The boy looked at his father and replied, “Father, have you tried?”

If you don’t have money, you cannot preach the futility of constantly chasing after money. You have no grounds.

To bring this wisdom home, the 21st century Iyana Ipaja philosopher, aka Small Doctor, so famously admonished: “If you no get money, hide your face!

Yet a new tribe of happiness seekers is emerging all across the world. They’re even inverting the premise of hard work in its entirety.

Tim Ferris, for example, advises us to, “Work hard but make sure you’re working on the right things.” Of course, he’d say that. He literally wrote the book on the subject. [The four hour workweek].

These days, I hear many giddy declarations such as these:

“I quit my $100K (N36.8m) a year job to live a minimalist life.”

“I sold everything I had; now I live off the grid and travel the world.”

“Even though my former job was prestigious, I left it all behind to become a street painter. Now I am happy.”

Outrageous statements a poor person doesn’t want to even hear. He’d say, “Wait, let me make the money first. Then let me be the judge of how miserable I want to be with my money.” Lol.

But chasing happiness is not equal to taking an oath of poverty. It’s about recognising what lies inside a person as the true source of joy. In this case, if anything one holds so dearly is taken away, life can still go on and have meaning.

As Boethius says in the Consolation of Philosophy, “Happiness cannot consist in the things governed by chance.”

For everyone who has forsaken the template life of school-work-marry-buy-buy-buy-die, life becomes more colourful now that they’re making purposeful choices. They can live according to their own design. Be truly free. Becoming wealthy doing what you enjoy and living as you please is the sweetest feeling of all.

Which is why “successful” people have been at the forefront of the happiness philosophy. Steve Jobs, Richard Branson, Christian Louboutin, LL Cool J and so on have talked about finding what you love and doing it. Making that thing you love pay, however, is a completely different kettle of fish, of course— but books have been written about that. E.g. Living the 80/20 Way and Born for This.

The trick to finding what you love and making it pay is to discover the confluence between what you love, what you’re really good at and what will pay the bills. This is where rigorous brainstorming comes in.

We’ll reach that moment— and that moment definitely comes for everybody— when we ask: is this what life is all about? Is this all there’s to it?

I am asking these questions right now. And I don’t like some of the answers I’m getting. Just as you, my life is a work in progress.

To live deliberately is to be truly happy. Day by day, small small, one step at a time.

Alrighty then, till next time, enjoy:

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